27. October 2015 · Comments Off on My version of the open letter to Skatepark Facebook Post going around · Categories: Uncategorized

So, by now you have seen this tweet, from 10-Oct-2015:

Here is the special needs version of that story, by me, told much earlier, and published in my 2013 book Dads of Disability™: Stories for, by, and about fathers of children who experience disability (and the women who love them!)  

Skatepark

My attitude about dads is that they need to protect their children for as long as possible based on the child’s individual needs. With that in mind, it may seem that allowing my young son to walk into a skatepark, go up to an unshaven and rattily-dressed skateboarder, introduce himself, and ask in a broken sentence if he can try out his skateboard is a situation I probably wouldn’t have approved of.

But here’s what happened.

image / flickr Ernst Moeksis creative commonsimage / flickr Ernst Moeksis creative commons

Skateboarder looks to Dad for permission. Dad reluctantly nods. Skateboarder says, “Sure” to Son.

Skateboarder takes one hand of Son; Dad takes the other. Son mounts skateboard. Skateboarder and Dad push Son slowly for twenty feet.

Dad prays there is no fall or cuts or sprained or broken bone or worse. (Dad imagines conversation with Son’s mother based on worst-case scenario. Dad quickly ceases that line of thinking.)

Son dismounts with hands held tightly by Dad and Skateboarder. Son remounts and tries again for another twenty feet.

Son says, “All done” and dismounts skateboard. Skateboarder offers to show Son tricks.

Skateboarder shows off for about ten minutes. Impressive tricks. Son, Dad, and Skateboarder have fun doing, watching, and being watched. Time to leave.

Dad tells Skateboarder, “You are very good with my son. Thanks for being so kind.” Skateboarder tells Dad, “I have a 3-year-old child with developmental disabilities. No problem. Your son is a joy.”

Dad and Son walk away. Son and Skateboarder both having taught Dad a number of lessons.

– Gary Dietz

This story is Copyright 2013 by Gary Dietz. I provide permission to share all or part of it as long as you link back to this blog at http://www.dadsofdisability.com

 

 

 

19. October 2015 · Comments Off on The top 10 hateful things people have said about my special needs parenting skills · Categories: advocacy, author queries, book status, lists, parent education

Hi,

This is a completely disingenuous post – my first ever (either here or on my marketing blog).

truth-257158_640Frankly, I am frustrated by the click through rates some bloggers, many “major” publishers, and a lot of minor ones receive with their negative articles and listicles. So, there you go.  A really negative headline. And probably a worthy article, though I would probably recast the title as “The top 10 ways I have overcome negative attitudes about my special needs parenting skills.”

I have actually been actively encouraged by editors to make the headlines controversial and negative to get clicks. And I have heard that essentially the same articles, one cast with a negative headline, and a second one cast with a positive headline, perform differently. Even when the article itself contains essentially the same points.

But, my blog, and my book (at least 99% of it) are positive, or at least built upon a positive attitude after not-so-positive things happen. I invite you to visit my project’s main page at http://blog.dadsofdisability.com/ to read extended free excerpts and reviews.

I hope you can get over my mistruth to get you to my page.  It really isn’t right, and I am sorry if you feel offended.

Instead, support articles, essays, and books with a positive spin.  Positive doesn’t mean rose-colored glasses, happy-assed, no bad news.  But don’t choose manufactured controversy either.

Thanks,

Gary gdietz@garydietz.com

 

The DaDads of Disability book coverds of Disability™ book project addresses the relative scarcity of stories from and about the perspective of fathers whose children experience a disability. The book is for dads, moms, grandparents, specialists (speech, OT, PT, teachers) and more.

You can learn more about how to buy it by CLICKING HERE.

There is nothing negative in it, at least as I intended it.